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-=Four-Leaf Clovers, Rabbit's Feet and the Art of Self-Defense= 
  
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-So there I was on the Preparation and Survival forum, browsing through the “Urban Survival” category of threads, when I encountered “Don't Get In The Car”. 
- 
- 
-==The Original Post== 
- 
- 
-The original post started off this way: 
- 
-<pre>Original Poster said:  
- 
-Here is a tip. I know that they say to do whatever an armed  
-criminal says to do, but there is one exception to that rule.  
-If the criminal wants 
-you to get into a car and either drive or let them drive,  
-DON'T GET IN. 
- 
- 
-No matter where you are, their intent is probably to take you  
-to a secluded area and end your life.</pre> 
- 
- 
-After a dozen or so replies all hailing the original poster's wisdom I encountered this response from a youngish lady: 
- 
- 
-==Youngish Lady's Response== 
- 
- 
-<pre>Youngish Lady said:  
- 
- 
-You could NEVER know how you would handle this kind of situations.  
-As you said, every situation is different. I think luck is a very  
-important factor in this equation. You can't tell anyone to keep  
-it together or to keep a clear mind. How could that be possible?  
-But you could say "TRY to keep calm".</pre> 
- 
- 
-My instant (and probably pre-programmed from years of saying it) response: 
- 
- 
-==Round 1== 
- 
- 
-<pre>SifuPhil said:  
- 
- 
-I would NEVER rely upon luck - luck is for lotteries and one-night- 
-stands, not self-defense.  
- 
- 
-It IS possible, with the proper training, to instill a mind that is  
-clear and calm in a conflict situation, but it takes work and lots  
-of it. It takes going outside your comfort zone - something most  
-people aren't prepared to do - and it takes daily, mindful practice.  
-Short of that you're right - it wouldn't be possible. 
- 
- 
-And, as Master Yoda said, "There IS no "try" - do or do not".</pre> 
-  
- 
-At this point I must have raised the young lady's hackles, because she next posted: 
- 
- 
-==Round 2== 
- 
- 
-<pre>Youngish Lady said:  
- 
- 
-I said luck is important, I didn't say rely on it. Have you  
-ever been in a situation like this? How did you feel? What  
-did you do? 
- 
- 
-I had an awful experience like this, I really don't want to  
-get into details. When I told the story, I used the phrases  
-"I was lucky to..." and "Luckly(sp) he..." several times.  
-I was very scared and my heart was racing. I looked calm but  
-I was a mess. I wasn't hurt and I escaped. That doesn't mean  
-I'm not emotionally hurt for life. 
- 
- 
-So I stand by everything I said in my previous reply.</pre> 
- 
- 
-Evidently I'd hit a nerve. I'd encountered one of the countless numbers of people who not only cannot let go of a sad event in their life, but also thank (or blame) luck as the important constituent. 
- 
- 
-“Emotionally hurt for life” … evidently not a warrior we're dealing with here. Why does this forum allow sheep to give advice on the handling of wolves? 
- 
- 
-Now how should I go about responding to this, while hiding my distaste for such attitudes? Hmmm … in response to her first paragraph concerning my own experiences, I wrote: 
- 
- 
-==Round 3== 
- 
- 
-<pre>SifuPhil said:  
- 
- 
-No, I haven't, but I HAVE taught self-defense classes for  
-over 30 years. I HAVE been mugged – unsuccessfully on the  
-mugger's part – and I have worked as a bouncer and an armed  
-escort. I stand by my assertion that luck has little if  
-anything to do with the outcome. Do you think luck is impor- 
-tant in not burning yourself on the stove? Is it important in  
-not having an auto accident?  
- 
- 
-If you think that luck is important then yes, you ARE going  
-to rely upon it, even if only subconsciously. 
- 
- 
-In my experience people who believe that luck plays an impor- 
-tant part of self-defense often have a victim's mentality.  
-They assign responsibility for their safety to something that  
-they cannot control - much like people ask God to protect them.  
-Ask someone who has been attacked and injured where their luck  
-- or God - was. They'll tell you a different story than the  
-person who walked away unscathed. Yet the fact remains that if  
-the victim or the perp had done something differently then the  
-outcome would have changed.</pre> 
- 
- 
-I probably should not have used the “victim mentality” line, nor the reference to God, but my patience only goes so far these days. 
- 
- 
-As for her second paragraph, I entered my reply: 
- 
- 
-<pre>SifuPhil said:  
- 
- 
-Well, here's an eye-opener - ask someone who has been mugged,  
-shot, stabbed or whatever how important luck was in their  
-attack. Sure, if they survive they'll say "I'm lucky to be  
-alive", but that's in SPITE of their actions, not BECAUSE of  
-them. A detailed analysis of what occurred would reveal  
-errors on both the attacker's and victim's parts which led  
-to the outcome, but to think GOING INTO the situation that  
-luck is an important element is to remove your own power and  
-give it over to something you cannot see, taste or feel.</pre> 
- 
- 
-And finally, to her “So I stand by everything I said in my previous reply”, I replied: 
- 
- 
-<pre>SifuPhil said:  
- 
- 
-As I stand by everything in mine. It's all about personal  
-power and taking responsibility for your own life - saying  
-that luck plays an important role is to diminish that power  
-and abandon your responsibility. It's the quitter's way of  
-dealing with life, because the opposite - taking the time  
-and effort to gain greater control over your life - would  
-mean not having the fall-back position of "luck" to retreat  
-to. It's a built-in excuse, a way to avoid making the hard  
-decisions. 
- 
- 
-Does luck exist in these situations? Of course. Would I rely  
-upon it, or even consider it when responding to those situ- 
-ations? Hell no. I don't gamble with my life, but that's what  
-believing in luck implies.</pre> 
- 
- 
-==Summing Up== 
- 
- 
-I'm sure the conversation isn't done yet, and I'll post updates when and if they materialize, but I just wanted to get a consensus from my fellow warriors – did I go over the top on this? Is luck really something that we should be waiting for in a self-defense situation? Is it an “important” element of a scenario, or something that need not be considered at all?  
- 
- 
-Or is it, as I suspect, a very small element of our self-defense plan that needs only a minimal amount of our attention?  
  
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